Sexual Wellness

Sexuality/GLBT

Questioning your sexuality?
Sexual feelings are a natural part of being human. They're as common as being hungry or sleepy. People each have their own way of responding to sexual feelings.

Learn about your own sexual feelings. Many people have a period of exploration before they develop a firm sexual style or identity.

Accept yourself. Sexual feelings can bring up a lot of emotions. They can lead to pleasure, excitement, and love. They can stir up guilt, fear, and uncertainty. They can cause frustration or jealousy. Learning to accept the sexual part of yourself is one of the best ways to have a healthy sex life.

It's important to:

• Never use sex to hurt others or yourself.
• Reduce your risk of an unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including HIV.
• Base your sexual relationships on consent.

Some people don't have sexual feelings. Often this happens at a time when people are ill, depressed, tired, or busy with school or work. If you haven't had sexual feelings for a long time, or ever, you may want to talk to your health care provider. Illness or medications can affect sexual responses. Seeing a counselor may also help, if there are no physical problems.

Sexual violence is not normal. It is never an OK way to express or experience sexual feelings. Being sure to have consent can help you avoid sexual violence. If you have strong urges to be sexually violent, or disturbing fantasies, you may want to talk to a counselor.

If you want to change you sexual orientation, you probably won't succeed. Joining a support group can help you be comfortable with yourself and your sexual feelings.

For more information, call OSU GLBT Student Services at 688-8449.